Being what you are, the way you are, without imitation, without showing off, without vanity. If you can do this, you’ll gain such peace that it’s indescribable. Because you accepted yourself as you are.

I always share what I write with you before publishing. I read them to my loved ones. Last week’s article apparently annoyed some. My loved ones who read it objected saying “How can you say you took your broken things out of your bag and left them, you can’t erase what you’ve experienced, don’t exaggerate.”

I’m not invalidating what they say. Of course nothing is erased. But it doesn’t get stuck in me either. I let go. This is a very important choice. Just because you experienced something doesn’t mean you always have to remind yourself of it or be sad about it. None of this is easy. It requires experience, requires time. When we have an experience, we keep holding onto it. We don’t let go.

A reader who read last week’s article wrote to me privately thanking me and saying they got rid of their heavy burdensome bag after reading the article. I was so happy about this. It’s a choice…

You can interpret what I write differently. When we look at life from different perspectives, we see the viewpoint changes too. My circle of friends around me has told me for years that “Hare, you won’t be able to start a relationship again if you continue like this. Don’t be like this, be a little more flexible.”

I’m very happy that I didn’t listen to what they said and stayed as I am. Because I wouldn’t know the feeling and comfort of being at peace.

I say one should be themselves in any relationship. The other side accepts you as you are or doesn’t. That’s their choice.

I’m in a phase where I’m experiencing a peace I never thought I could achieve. I’m enjoying it to the fullest. And I want to convey this enthusiasm to you too. I mentioned this in last week’s article. Now I’m in a better place than in last week’s article.

When there’s a problem in relationships, we immediately assume we did something wrong and try to fix it. It’s usually the same people, I’ve noticed this. And when the relationship ends, they take on that burden and constantly question themselves. Because someone who always carries that burden carries it in every relationship. They take it from one to the next.

And this has nothing to do with love. If you’re in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy despite everything, questioning yourself in order to understand the reason for not being happy is an extremely accurate step, but it’s different to blame yourself for what happened and internalize it.

Instead of constantly ruminating, just know this: if a relationship is causing you unhappiness and you’ve questioned yourself and seen that the reason isn’t you, then the problem is compatibility and that relationship.

The person you’re with can’t make you happy, it’s that simple. There’s no need to search for reasons. There are many people who make you happy by just touching your hand. You’ll find that person one day. But first there are things you need to do. Being at peace with yourself is the most important of these.

Have a nice day…